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Narcissism Redux

Posted in Mental Illness and Divorce

Hi there,

In 2009 I wrote a post on narcissism.  Since then, there has been an increase in the number of cases we are handling that seem to involve narcissists, or at least narcissistic behavior.  I was interested to see that there is support for a theory that narcissism is on the rise.  It increased between 1994 and 2009, and there is no reason to think that this increase is not still continuing.

Divorces involving narcissists can be some of the worst to handle, AND a lot of narcissists tend to get divorced.  Additionally, divorcing a narcissist usually takes longer and costs more because of the narcissist’s psychology.

But, more destructive is what happens to children caught in the crossfire even if one parent is behaving perfectly.  I just read an excellent article which might be useful if you are that reasonable parent trying to divorce a narcissist.  Sometimes the most helpful behavior is the realization that you are not crazy and that the situation is the result of your former partner, not you.

Best,

Nancy