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Gray Divorce: Retirement Accounts and Estate Planning

Posted in Gray Divorce

Hi there,

I’ve been playing hooky, and my colleague Andrea Dunbar has stepped up to complete her series on points to consider in gray divorces.

Best, 

Nancy

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DIVIDING RETIREMENT ACCOUNTS

Andrea Dunbar Burns & Levinson AttorneyThere are important differences associated with dividing retirement plans that are already in pay status and those that are not.  Some people divorcing later in life are already retired, and thus are most likely already collecting from a retirement plan.  This limits the options available for dividing some plans in divorce.  Different plans have different options, so it is imperative to know the rules of the plan you are dealing with. 

Pension plans, as opposed to 401(k) plans or 403(b) plans, once in pay status, pay a fixed sum of money each month for the rest of a participant’s life.  The amount of the payment is typically based on the income the person earned over a period of time.  The payment amount will also depend on whether there was a survivor beneficiary named at the time of retirement and the extent of the continued benefit. Continue Reading

Gray Divorce: Social Security and Medicare

Posted in Gray Divorce

Hi there,

Gray divorce is on the increase.  As Boomers age they are deciding to divorce.  There are a number of issues that are of particular importance.  My very talented colleague Andrea Dunbar has written today about Social Security and Medicare benefits.

Best,

Nancy 

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Andrea Dunbar Burns & Levinson AttorneyWhile each divorce case presents its own set of complex facts and circumstances, divorces involving older clients (also known as “gray divorce”) can be especially complex.  Issues such as Social Security, Medicare, retirement benefits and estate planning are, more often than not, fringe issues when dealing with couples divorcing at other points in life.  These issues come to the forefront, and sometimes become of critical importance when a divorce occurs later in life.    

Social Security

It is important to know the ins and outs of Social Security when going through a divorce during advanced age.  The rules of Social Security, like most other federal benefits programs, are counter-intuitive and often lead to surprising results. 

A widow or widower at full retirement age or older receives 100% of a deceased spouse’s basic Social Security benefit amount.  The same is true even if the spouses are divorced, as long as they were married for at least ten years and the spouse seeking to collect benefits is not remarried.  Johnny Carson provides an interesting illustration of this rule:  He was married four times, each marriage lasted at least ten years, and none of Johnny’s former spouses remarried.  Upon Johnny’s death, all four of his ex-wives qualified for and received an amount equal to his full Social Security benefit.

The Social Security Administration provides a benefit option to married and divorced spouses known as “claim and suspend.”  Claim and suspend allows a married or divorced couple to simultaneously take advantage of spousal benefits and delayed retirement credits.  A former spouse of a worker who has reached full retirement age and claimed benefits upon reaching full retirement age her/himself,  may claim and suspend, and receive an amount equal to 50% of the worker’s benefit each month without affecting the former spouse’s ability to continue to work until age seventy (70); thus, earning delayed retirement credits which increase the former spouse’s ultimate benefit.  This of course is so long as the former spouse is not remarried and the marriage lasted at least ten years. 

Some state courts take the position that making an equitable division of Social Security benefits upon divorce violates federal law.  Where one spouse worked and the other stayed home, or both spouses worked but one spouse was the higher wage earner, the Court’s refusal to make an equitable division of Social Security benefits can result in serious inequities, especially when a couple is divorcing at or after full retirement age.  Some courts remedy this inequity by assigning a larger share of marital assets to the spouse with the lower social security payout. 

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5 Tips on Co-Parenting at the Beginning of Your Divorce

Posted in Child Custody, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there,

Many of you will end up being able to co-parent admirably, and this will include many of you who are struggling with the tough initial stages of working out a co-parenting arrangement.  If no one is pathological, then time will generally settle things down.

In the meantime, here are some tips to keep things from blowing up:

1.  Don’t sweat the small stuff.  In a perfect world the kids would have the same experience in both homes.  That is not going to happen.  Don’t worry if things are different at both houses — different meals, different clothes, and yes, different bedtimes.  These differences help make the children of divorce more resilient than their peers, and resilience is a very good thing!  Do raise some issues; for instance, any surrounding inherently dangerous activities and food if there is a medical/allergic condition that the kids have.  You should agree on those limits.

2. Don’t try to communicate in person or by phone if you or your spouse are still raw.  Email and texting have truly made divorce parenting easier. You are both communicating and creating a record.  Always be civil and polite.  You can make faces at the computer but don’t let the anger show through (and NEVER, EVER make faces or complain about the other parent where kids can see or hear you).  If you get nasty texts or emails from your soon-to-be-ex, take a deep breath, and ignore them.  When you are calm you can reply politely to the meat of the email, whatever it was.  If you are so disturbed by the message, have a close friend read it for you and help you reply.  Non-engagement helps stop the fighting.  Also if matters blow up and parenting becomes a court issue, you will have a good, clear, written record of who said what.  Save all emails and learn how to save texts with your phone. Continue Reading