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Massachusetts Divorce Law Monitor

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Divorcing and Dating: New Mass. Bill Could Kill the Mood

Posted in Divorce Process, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there,

The Twitterverse, (one of my favorite time wasters) and the news media in Massachusetts were a buzz yesterday as word spread that a State Senator filed on behalf of one of his constituents a bill that would ban parents from having sex in the former marital home before the finalization of the divorce. If the bill were to pass, it would require a divorcing party to obtain special permission from a judge in order to have sex with their new partner! It certainly won’t pass, and the mere concept is enough to cause near-terminal giggles, in this divorce lawyer at least.  But it does raise important issues: When should children learn that their parents are dating other people? When should children learn that a parent is in a serious relationship?

Divorce is tough on children. They need to go through the grieving process, just like their parents. And since, hopefully, they learned about the divorce after their parents, it’s going to take them longer to adjust. The parent/child dynamic is very different, of course, from the spouse dynamic. In the best-case scenario, parents will agree on when the kids should become aware the parents are dating. Then they should also agree on when they will let the kids know they are in a serious relationship, which probably should not occur until after the divorce. Kids are very literal – married means married in their minds – and a lot of parent/child problems can flow from doing this wrong.

Although the language of the bill seems silly, the general issue can easily be addressed by current legal measures. Last night one of my favorite local divorce attorneys was interviewed on TV about the bill, and she reminded viewers that if they are concerned that a significant other will be introduced too early in the divorce process, they should have their attorney ask the judge for an order to prevent this. Most judges are inclined to agree.



College Costs for Divorcing and Divorced Spouses

Posted in Finances and Divorce, Parenting, Children & Divorce

Hi there,

It’s spring and college acceptance letters are in the mail. It’s that time of year when parents start looking at how to pay for college. As you might expect, this is an area of frequent concern in divorce, as this article by my colleague Ron Barriere points out.



Ronald P. Barriere

As attorneys, we frequently get text messages and emails referring us to sensational stories related to our practice area.  Last week was no exception, as our inboxes were flooded with links to various articles concerning the New Jersey teen, Rachel Canning, who sued her parents after a falling out over a boyfriend and household rules.  (Three particularly good articles about the story can be found on Yahoo, the ABA Journal and the New York Post.)

The most common question we receive when a story such as this appears in the zeitgeist is “Can someone really sue over this?”  Usually, the answer is yes.  In the Canning case, the identity of the litigants is what makes the case novel:  It is rare that parents are unified in opposition to the child in a dispute about education costs.  The facts, however, are all too common.  Our office handles dozens of cases each year involving parents disputing the amount and allocation of their children’s private school and college costs.  These cases will only become more common each year as increases in tuition costs continue to outpace the rate of inflation.

In Massachusetts, courts rarely determine how college will be paid for unless the expense is imminent.  That is, most divorce judgments issued after trial do not address the issue at all unless a child of the parties is of high school age.  (Parents of small children may get language in their judgment that “the parties will each contribute to college expenses in accordance with their means,” or no language at all.)

When the courts do address college expenses as part of a divorce judgment, the results can vary widely because the court’s analysis is often very fact specific based upon the incomes of the parties and the size and liquidity of marital assets.  The analysis can be further simplified if the parties had the wherewithal and foresight to set aside funds for the express purpose of paying for college during the marriage.  The interrelationship between child support and college expenses is also relevant and is a factor to be considered by the court in applying the Massachusetts child support guidelines.  (See Massachusetts Child Support Guidelines, Section J: “Other Child-Related Expenses”.)

Of course, most divorces in Massachusetts end in agreements, and payment of college expenses is frequently considered.  In most cases, parties can “control their destiny” by making specific arrangements in advance to contemplate how college will be paid for.  These provisions can range from the vague (i.e. “the parties agree to pay for college in accordance with their means”) to the extremely specific.  Common provisions include limiting parental contribution to that of an agreed upon state school, allocating what percentage of then-existing education plans shall be credited toward each of the parties’ respective contributions, and defining exactly what constitutes a college expense.

A further complication is that all child-related issues – including college – may be later modified by agreement or further judgment of the court.  This is statutory recognition of the fact that children (and their needs, both financial and otherwise) change as they grow, but it can lead to further litigation between the parties if the child makes an unexpected college choice (say, art school as opposed to traditional university) or if the parents’ financial means change.  However, the payment of college expenses in and of itself does not constitute a material change in circumstances to justify a modification of a divorce agreement when it was foreseeable at the time of the divorce. See McCarthy v. McCarthy, 36 Mass. App. Ct. 490 (1994).

Parties to a divorce agreement or judgment that was silent about payment of college must be careful not to wait too long to seek contribution.  The Massachusetts Appeals Court has held that “exceptional circumstances” are required to compel responsibility for college expenses upon the child’s college graduation. See Purdy v. Colangelo, 61 Mass. App. Ct. 322, 331 (2004).

The treatment of college expenses, like most other matters in the family law area, requires careful consideration and guidance.  Divorcing and divorced parties with college-bound children should use care in selecting knowledgeable counsel to help guide them.

Imputed Income and Health Insurance in Divorce Settlements, Part 2

Posted in Divorce Planning, Finances and Divorce

Hi there,

Here’s the second half of the excellent piece on taxes and health insurance by my colleagues Ron Barriere and Jen Green. Just in time for tax season, too.




Ronald Barriere Attorney

Ronald Barriere

Jennifer Green Attorney

Jennifer Green

With most Massachusetts health insurance plans, provided he/she has not yet remarried, an employee with at least one dependent child can add a former spouse to the coverage for no additional cost, so there is no additional cost to the employer either. In these situations, one would presume that no income should be imputed to the employee because the employer is not required to pay the insurer any additional premium for the benefit of continuing coverage of a former spouse. Unfortunately, not all human resource departments share this view. Some human resource departments are deciding that the former spouse is receiving a benefit that is equal to the value of the employee’s own individual coverage and, thus, are imputing the fair market value of that coverage to the employee on his/her Form W-2. Continue Reading