Hi there, Many of you will end up being able to co-parent admirably, and this will include many of you who are struggling with the tough initial stages of working out a co-parenting arrangement. If no one is pathological, then time will generally settle things down. In the meantime, here are some tips to keep things from blowing… Continue Reading
Category Archives: Parenting, Children & Divorce
Subscribe to Parenting, Children & Divorce RSS FeedParental Alienation in Divorce: The Kelly Rutherford Divorce Saga
Posted in Child Custody, Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, As I am in the midst of a trial, I thought this would be a good time for one of my associates, Andrea Dunbar, to fill in for me with a timely guest post on the issue of parental alienation in divorce. Check it out below! Best, Nancy ________ Kelly Rutherford, who portrays the… Continue Reading
Tip# 5 of the Top 5 To-Do’s When You Want to Divorce: How to Tell Your Kids
Posted in Parenting, Children & Divorce, Top 5 To-Do's When You Want to DivorceHi there, This is the most important — and may be the most difficult — thing you will have to do when you decide to divorce. If you can (and emotional and logistic circumstances may prevent this), try to tell the kids about the divorce together. Also, try to tell them as soon as possible. Past the age… Continue Reading
Tis the Joyous Season: (maybe not?)
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, I spent some time waiting in court today for my case to be called, and realized while listening to the arguments ahead of me that this is the happy time of year when divorce lawyers are negotiating the minefield of holiday parenting time. This is tough for all concerned. Hanukkah begins on December 20th this year and Christmas… Continue Reading
Some thoughts on kids & parenting
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, I have been thinking about a post I read recently in the Ohio Family Law Blog (one of my favorites) about the possibility of parents who are not in the court system already, possibly having their children taken away as a result of childhood obesity. Morbid obesity in children is clearly a health problem that needs… Continue Reading
Divorced and Traveling with the Children
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, I cannot believe how cold it is! At least it isn’t snowing again. I am dreaming of travel to any place warm. If you are thinking of travel too, this, like so much else, can require extra steps if you are divorced (or separated) with children. Most divorced parents have shared legal custody and most divorce… Continue Reading
Removal Cases – A Trial Situation
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, I bet that most divorce lawyers and Probate Judges will tell you that among the toughest cases they see are so called removal cases - where one parent wants to leave the state with the children, leaving the other parent behind. It is now also clear that moving across the state so that parenting… Continue Reading
The Toughest Time of the Year
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, "Firsts" of anything after divorce are hard, perhaps hardest on the children who probably don’t feel any of the relief that the adults may at the change in circumstances. Christmas can be the hardest, as there is no good way to divide the Santa time and not much in the way of myth to explain… Continue Reading
Thanksgiving
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, I was just complaining with my coworkers about this time of year as a divorce lawyer. I usually LOVE my job but the past two weeks, and probably next week as well, are the nadir as they are the time when high conflict couples discuss and (maybe) try to resolve the issues of children and holidays. … Continue Reading
Children & Divorce: Tips
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, The joyous holiday season is almost upon us! For divorce attorneys, this is always viewed with some trepidation, as we tend to find ourselves in courtrooms arguing over who goes to dinner or Christmas or Hanukkah with whom – not necessarily an uplifting process. I have been gleaning a series of articles and points… Continue Reading
Holidays Are For Kids
Posted in Child Custody, Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there! As I started trying to find my tablecloths for Thanksgiving (it’s amazing what you lose when you move), I realized the holiday season was upon us and while I love this time personally, as a divorce lawyer it is both very hard and very busy. This is the season where parents have to figure… Continue Reading
Keep Kids Out Of The Middle
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, One of the toughest things to watch as a divorce practitioner is parents putting kids in the middle of the parental war zone. Passing messages, engaging in passive aggressive behavior over visit times, and worst of all, letting kids see the divorce papers – the list of ways to hurt children is practically endless. Parents… Continue Reading
Back to school, for parents
Posted in Child Custody, Parenting, Children & DivorceHi there, Massachusetts has had mandated parent education for some years. The course is titled "Understanding the Effect of Divorce on Children" and more information can be found here (PDF). I have always thought it was a good idea, not everyone gets it, of course, but I think many do. Simple civility and how to keep the… Continue Reading
Random Thoughts
Posted in Parenting, Children & DivorceHello there, I find this to be a very interesting topic that everyone has a different opinion about and as I wrote this I realized what I was writing was different from my usual posts, but what the hell?! I am sure one of the more difficult issues faced by a parent contemplating divorce is… Continue Reading